Shame On You If He Fooled You Twice.....(or more)
This is a very hard subject for me to write about, but I feel that if I blog about it I will let off some steam.
I have a very, very close friend of mine and in about 30 minutes she has changed my outlook on her completely. We all have had our share of relationship woes so I'm not trying to make it seem that I'm any better than her. The situation is that she has been going with this guy for a while and has 2 children by him. He has dissed her on many occasions by cheating on her, telling her very hurtful things and the ultimate.......he BEAT her! Now my friend hid this last piece of information from myself and her family for a very long time until it got so bad she decided to leave and that's when we all found out. When she moved out she began to share a lot of the things that went on between them and frankly, I was kinda hurt that she never confided in me all this time. I thought we had a very tight relationship because I tell her practically everything and I believed she did the same, but I was so wrong.
Last night we were talking and she came out and told me that she was back with him! She actually admitted that she got back with him a few months ago. Mind you, she has gone back to him more than once in the past but I never butted in (I also never knew about the beatings then). This time I flew off the handle and she got very defensive and felt that there is nothing wrong with her actions. I was extremely pissed off at her because I have listened to her cry to me and tell me how he used to beat her to the point where she started vomiting and he hit her in the face so bad that her eyes were swollen shut etc. Now, she's telling me that that's where her 'heart' is and I'll 'get over it'!! She even went as far as to say that she's the one that 'caused' him to beat her!! She says things are different now and I'll just have to accept it just like her family has. Mind you, she has left him several times before and each time she went back to him she said things were different and he always went back to his old ways. Why then would she believe that this time is not like the last few times?? I care a lot about her and I guess that's why I'm taking it so personal.
How could she go back to a man that beat her mercilessly!! I know she's grown and she doesn't have to answer to me, but I am so dissapointed in her. Everytime I think about it I get so upset. I told her that I don't want to hear anything from her if things go sour. I told her she was acting foolishly and I cannot accept the fact that she doesn't want better for herself. She even said that she knows that I won't call her for 2-3 months but I'll be 'okay'. In my head I'm thinking that something is seriously wrong with her thought process. I guess when one is in love they do what they believe is best for them. I can see if this was a one-time incident and she forgave him, but this has happened more than once and she has left him and had the chance to reflect on the relationship and yet, she's back with him!
I could go on and on, but I'll stop here. I know I've been a fool for love, but this, in my opinion, is downright MORONIC!! I just pray that she will come to her senses soon.
I have a very, very close friend of mine and in about 30 minutes she has changed my outlook on her completely. We all have had our share of relationship woes so I'm not trying to make it seem that I'm any better than her. The situation is that she has been going with this guy for a while and has 2 children by him. He has dissed her on many occasions by cheating on her, telling her very hurtful things and the ultimate.......he BEAT her! Now my friend hid this last piece of information from myself and her family for a very long time until it got so bad she decided to leave and that's when we all found out. When she moved out she began to share a lot of the things that went on between them and frankly, I was kinda hurt that she never confided in me all this time. I thought we had a very tight relationship because I tell her practically everything and I believed she did the same, but I was so wrong.
Last night we were talking and she came out and told me that she was back with him! She actually admitted that she got back with him a few months ago. Mind you, she has gone back to him more than once in the past but I never butted in (I also never knew about the beatings then). This time I flew off the handle and she got very defensive and felt that there is nothing wrong with her actions. I was extremely pissed off at her because I have listened to her cry to me and tell me how he used to beat her to the point where she started vomiting and he hit her in the face so bad that her eyes were swollen shut etc. Now, she's telling me that that's where her 'heart' is and I'll 'get over it'!! She even went as far as to say that she's the one that 'caused' him to beat her!! She says things are different now and I'll just have to accept it just like her family has. Mind you, she has left him several times before and each time she went back to him she said things were different and he always went back to his old ways. Why then would she believe that this time is not like the last few times?? I care a lot about her and I guess that's why I'm taking it so personal.
How could she go back to a man that beat her mercilessly!! I know she's grown and she doesn't have to answer to me, but I am so dissapointed in her. Everytime I think about it I get so upset. I told her that I don't want to hear anything from her if things go sour. I told her she was acting foolishly and I cannot accept the fact that she doesn't want better for herself. She even said that she knows that I won't call her for 2-3 months but I'll be 'okay'. In my head I'm thinking that something is seriously wrong with her thought process. I guess when one is in love they do what they believe is best for them. I can see if this was a one-time incident and she forgave him, but this has happened more than once and she has left him and had the chance to reflect on the relationship and yet, she's back with him!
I could go on and on, but I'll stop here. I know I've been a fool for love, but this, in my opinion, is downright MORONIC!! I just pray that she will come to her senses soon.
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